Recently, I re-watched the movie Shallow Hal , which is about a guy who would only go after very pretty girls until he was hypnotized into believing that the "ugly girls" were amazingly hot. Well if you have ever seen Shallow Hal it ends on a good note, where he realizes that the person he thought was hot and thin is actually beautiful and fat.
Though I love the moral of the movie, it also shows the reality that we live in. I am referring to the millions of commercials, billboards, and advertisements showing really thin women with big boobs and big butts or really buffed men with a very sexy six pack. Of course there is nothing wrong with looking and thinking that someone is handsome or beautiful, but there is something wrong when we judge a person by their appearance.
(of course we do not want to end up with someone with bad hygiene)
But even though that certain person may be clean, we never end up noticing how much of a wonderful person they are inside and thus we pass up an opportunity that may have been worth it. It is true that "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", but lately it feels like many people expect for their girlfriends/boyfriends to look like the models in the magazines.
Naturally we want what we cannot have and we always end up thinking that if we had it, we would want nothing else, but that is FAR from the truth. We merely pay attention as to how ungrateful some of us can be.
Like Hal, I am as well a bit shallow, but looking back at everyone I have ever dated, it makes me think that maybe I am not at all shallow. I will admit I am guilty of wanting someone that was on a billboard even though I did not know him, but in the end it is personality that wins me over. Again, if you take a look at my ex's you will see that I've dated a bunch of clowns, literally. One had puffy red hair, another had crazy teeth, and the other one had big feet for his really thin figure and even with those flaws I still went out with them.
Even so, there are a few who are not appealing to us who lack personality, but then there are those who are not appealing with a very charming personality. All I am saying is that we should truly see the beauty that lies beneath the appearance because eventually that person is going to grow old and saggy (I'm sorry, I'm such a bratty youngin'), and they will not have the same six pack or the firm, barbie-like body (Fuck Barbie dolls), but they will most likely have the charm that drew you to them in the beginning (unless they somehow got possessed).
So remember "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and hopefully that beauty will be a bitch and bite you right in the ass...
because true beauty is not in the appearance, but on the inside.
(I know difficult, especially since I love a good pair of eyes! but I'll easily get repelled if he is an asshole).
Hanny the Coffee Bean
(note: the Shallow Hal video is not mine)
Friday, September 24, 2010